Keeping your referrer updated
When and how to share progress after someone refers you, without nagging.
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Someone who refers you is investing a little of their reputation in you. A short update now and then is a courtesy, and it keeps the relationship warm. You do not need to share everything.
Good moments to send a note
- Straight after they refer you, to say thank you.
- When you hear something concrete, such as an interview or a decision.
- If you accept another offer, so they are not waiting on you.
Keep it short
Hi [name], a quick update: I have an interview on [date] for the [role]. Thank you again for referring me. I'll let you know how it goes.
What not to do
- Ask them for inside information on the hiring decision, which they may not have or be allowed to share.
- Send updates every few days.
- Share confidential details of the interview process if you have been asked not to.
Whatever the outcome, a final thank-you is remembered. People are far more likely to help again when they have been treated well.
Put it into practice
Write a thank-youTry a free tool
- Thank-you message builder · A short thank-you after a referral, a recruiter call or an interview.
- Referral request tracker · Note who you asked, when to follow up and what happened. Printable.
Guides on this site were last updated on 17 Oct 2026. This is general information, not advice for your situation.
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