How to ask for a referral (with message templates)
A short, polite request that is easy to say yes to, plus two templates you can adapt.
Quick answer: Name the role, say briefly why you fit, attach your CV and make it easy for them to say no.
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Most people are happy to refer someone when the request is clear and takes little effort. The aim is to make it easy for them to decide, and easy to say no without awkwardness.
What to include
- The specific role you are interested in, ideally with a link to the job description.
- Two or three sentences on why you fit it, using the language of the job description.
- Your CV attached, and a LinkedIn link if it is up to date.
- An explicit, low-pressure ask: would they be willing to refer you, or tell you if it is not a fit.
Template: you don't know them
Hi [name], I'm applying for the [role] position at [company] and saw you work in [team]. I have [two years of relevant experience, e.g. building dashboards in SQL and Tableau] and have attached my CV. If you think I'd be a fit, would you be open to referring me? If not, no problem at all, and thank you for reading.
Template: a loose connection
Hi [name], we [met at / both studied at / know each other through]. I'm applying for [role] at [company]. I've attached my CV and the job link. Would you be comfortable referring me? Happy to answer any questions first.
Things to avoid
- Sending the same generic message to many people at once.
- Asking for a referral before you have read the job description.
- Following up repeatedly. One polite nudge after a week or so is plenty.
On Doorstep the referrer has already said they are open to requests, so you can skip the awkward part. Your note should still cover the points above.
Put it into practice
Find a referrerTry a free tool
- Referral message generator · A polite request, follow-up or thank-you you can edit and send.
- Application note builder · The short note to send with your application: strengths, availability and right to work.
Guides on this site were last updated on 17 Oct 2026. This is general information, not advice for your situation.
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